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Time for change is now

Are you fed up with the way your life is right now and wonder how to change it?
Here are simple ways to do just that and start to live the life you truly want.

What steps do you need to take now?

What steps do you need to take now?

Start with a dream. Imagine stepping from where you are now into the life you would like to have and take a good look around so that you can remember what you are doing, how you are dressed, the way you are behaving, the sort of things you say, who else is there and how you communicate with them, and most important of all how you feel about being in that ideal life.

Take all that information with you in your head as you are back in your day to day world and pick a goal from that vision which is feasible for you to succeed in right now even though you know that in order to achieve it you may have to step out of your comfort zone.

It could be something relatively easy to do such as change the way you wear your hair or start to wear a different style of clothes or a colour you don’t usually wear. Take a deep breath and tell yourself that this is your first step towards a new life and then do it.

Because doing this means you have to step out of your comfort zone the thought may almost stop you taking any action. So take a deep breath and breathe out your anxiety and breath in confidence and tell yourself ‘I can do this.’

You may feel as though the step is too difficult to do so ask yourself what is stopping you and what you must do to be able to take that step. If your answer is “I don’t know,’ then ask: ‘what would you have to do if you did know what’s stopping you?

Discover the answer and so what you have to do to remove whatever was stopping you.

Creativity is so important

Art and Texture

When you get in touch with your right brain you can begin to connect with your innate creativity by letting the paintbrush or in the above example – palette knife, take you to where you want to go.

Don’t plan,  just let the process happen; let your intuition guide you. Put some paint on your palette and brush it on the canvas. Wonderful things happen. In the example above I was thrilled to see what had formed underneath when I scaped off a layer of paint to reveal colours I’d applied earlier. I love paining abstract so I’m not bound by trying to make it look like a photograph!

However sometimes I paint more representationally, though never like a photograph:

Camelias in Winter

I wrote before about creativity and I want to emphaise how important it is for your health and well-being and your ability to make changes in your life to do this. My link to creativity is through painting.

Challenge yourself this week by doing something new and creative: what will you do?

Coaching can enable you to release your creativity too and in that way your life can change in unexpected ways.

 

 

 

Look at your life from a new perspective

What steps do you need to take now?

If you want to change something in your life that you don’t like then you have to start to look at your life from a new perspective because unless you do so, life and whatever you don’t like in it may continue unchanged however much you wish for it to change, the secret is to do things differently.

Do things you  hadn’t considered previously by:

Setting  new boundaries.

Habits are the way you define your life. They are your boundaries, the way you know when to start and when to stop, how you decide what doing something actually means to you and how you behave each day. All of these things can be changed if you decide you want life to be different.  You could start with changing something such as the time you get up in the morning or the time you go to bed. A change in one part of your life makes it easier for you to make changes in another part.

Trying something new.

Not only new boundaries but also what you do and how you do it. Try doing something you haven’t done before or approach solving a problem or challenge in a new way. Notice how friends, family or work colleagues do the same tasks, especially if they do them more quickly or more efficiently than you, and learn to do the same yourself. When you find  new ways to achieve the desired outcomes you will be motivated to get more done yourself.

Changing your perspective.

Notice what seems important and what doesn’t seem important and then switch your feelings around so that your perspective about them both changes. This may be useful to enable you to understand the world from someone else’s viewpoint and thus understand them better. This in turn is useful when you want to change your life so you can make changes that are beneficial to others as much as you.

Stopping something which is unnecessary.

Much of what you do, or at least some of it may not actually be necessary at all. So re-assess all of what you do each day and ask yourself if you need to continue in the same way and what you could stop doing altogether. If you take a metaphorical step back in this way and observe yourself from an outsider’s perspective then you will gain a greater insight into ways you waste time by doing unnecessary tasks.

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Get in touch with your creativity

Although everyone has a creative side, (known as your ‘right brain’), and a logical side, (known as your ‘left brain’), some people find it a challenge to get in touch with their creative side because they are conditioned to remain on a path which is conventional and proven.
Being creative means being prepared to think ‘outside the box’ and think of new and original ways to do things.

You may wonder how you could get in touch with your creative side. Here are three ways to do this:

Relax
When you want to be creative it’s very important to release any tension from  your body so that your mind can be open to new experiences and not be pre-occupied with dealing with tension or stress. It’s possible to relax very quickly if you take three or four deep breaths while consciously thinking to yourself that as you breathe out you are releasing tension and as you breathe in you are taking in relaxation.  In your relaxed state pick up a pen and start to write down all the potential ways forward you could take to achieve what you want. You might instead find that you would like to use paints instead or a musical instrument to express your new found creativity and explore where it leads you.

Visualise
Once you are fully relaxed  begin to think about the project you are attempting to complete and allow your mind to wander over various possibilities rather than immediately going for the obvious logical way to do it.  Close your eyes ask yourself what ways there might be to solve or succeed with your project and notice the scenarios which appear in your mind as you do this. You may notice pictures sounds or emotions or a combination of all three. Then imagine yourself moving into the scenario you are thinking about and in that way discover for yourself what might or might not work for you and others. While you consider each possibility and visualise or daydream as if you were already there, you can discover what other people might or might not be doing in relation to you if what you imagine actually happened, and what they are saying to you and others. Be aware  of any emotions that come up for you when you visit the various scenarios. Keep a notebook handy to jot down your experiences and insights as a result of your visualisation.

Experiment
It’s easy to dismiss unusual or different solutions which you haven’t tried  before but it’s important to be prepared to experiment and play with them. Sometimes what is needed is just doing anything even if you are uncertain of the potential outcome.People often think of all the possible ways that something won’t work and as a result dismiss the idea of trying as an experiment to see what would happen. The reality is that we can’t foretell the future however much we’d like to, so it’s useful to go forward into it in a creative and exciting new way.

How do you unlock your creativity? Add your comments in the box below.

Metaphor to help you change

Many people say they want to change their lives but that’s all they ever do. They never take any action so their lives stay the same and they get more and more frustrated as the years go by.

Perhaps you are not one of those people. Perhaps you know what you want and are ready to take action. That is wonderful because when you decide to change your life and take the first tentative step then something magical happens. It’s as if the world itself changes too. People and places seem different from the way they were before and it becomes easier to believe that what you hope for might actually be a possibility. You begin to see your vision getting closer.

During a  time of  life-change it’s motivating and useful to have a mentor or coach,  someone to support you during the time of transition.

Working with a mentor or a coach  is  a good way to reduce overwhelm and procrastination felt by many people when they decide to make changes in their life.

Perhaps you are a mentor or coach.   If so, make sure you work with a mentor or coach yourself because it’s useful to experience for yourself the benefit that mentoring or coaching brings. Everyone benefits, not only your clients but also, most of all, yourself.  You’ll find out at first hand how beneficial it is to have someone to offload and bounce ideas onto and listen to you talk about the things which seem insoluble in your life.

A powerful way to move an idea forward  is by using metaphor to compare something with similar attributes to the subject you are considering.

For example, thinking about the changing seasons of the year is useful in  relation  to how you feel about aspects of your life and may help you understand how the  process for change happens internally1.

If you are considering leaving something you may feel  like Autumn moving towards Winter. Then you may experience a time when outwardly things are dormant and you lack energy and drive. However, inwardly things are happening.
When your Spring arrives you have more energy, new hope. It is a period for growth and anticipation. Quite suddenly,  it seems, you are filled with ideas and energy. You are ready to take the first steps for change.

Finally, you move into Summer and your life is in full bloom again.

Coaching can enable this to happen more quickly. Find out more here.

What do you owe yourself?

You owe it to yourself to get the most out of your life.

The worst thing that you can do is to look back over your life and say “I wish I had done this” or “I wish I had done that”

Creating a vision and a mission of what you want out from your life will provide you with some direction and momentum to move forward.

Do you feel as though you are stuck in a rut or lack some direction and purpose to your life? Are you just drifting along from one day to the next?

What is your life all about?

Do you let events happen to you rather than going out and making them happen?

When you have a compelling vision, you will feel good about yourself. You know where you are going life and have a purpose to it all.

When you feel in control of your life and events you will naturally feel more confident and motivated to achieve more.

Get the most out of life

You owe it to yourself to get the most out of your life.

The worst thing that you can do is to look back over your life and say “I wish I had done this” or “I wish I had done that”

Creating a vision and a mission of what you want out from your life will provide you with some direction and momentum to move forward.

Do you feel as though you are stuck in a rut or lack some direction and purpose to your life? Are you just drifting along from one day to the next?

What is your life all about?

Do you let events happen to you rather than going out and making them happen?

When you have a compelling vision, you will feel good about yourself. You know where you are going life and have a purpose to it all.

When you feel in control of your life and events you will naturally feel more confident and motivated to achieve more.

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