Author: Susan Kersley (page 2 of 2)

What do you owe yourself?

You owe it to yourself to get the most out of your life.

The worst thing that you can do is to look back over your life and say “I wish I had done this” or “I wish I had done that”

Creating a vision and a mission of what you want out from your life will provide you with some direction and momentum to move forward.

Do you feel as though you are stuck in a rut or lack some direction and purpose to your life? Are you just drifting along from one day to the next?

What is your life all about?

Do you let events happen to you rather than going out and making them happen?

When you have a compelling vision, you will feel good about yourself. You know where you are going life and have a purpose to it all.

When you feel in control of your life and events you will naturally feel more confident and motivated to achieve more.

Get the most out of life

You owe it to yourself to get the most out of your life.

The worst thing that you can do is to look back over your life and say “I wish I had done this” or “I wish I had done that”

Creating a vision and a mission of what you want out from your life will provide you with some direction and momentum to move forward.

Do you feel as though you are stuck in a rut or lack some direction and purpose to your life? Are you just drifting along from one day to the next?

What is your life all about?

Do you let events happen to you rather than going out and making them happen?

When you have a compelling vision, you will feel good about yourself. You know where you are going life and have a purpose to it all.

When you feel in control of your life and events you will naturally feel more confident and motivated to achieve more.

Our Mindset Determines Your Life by: Sopan Greene

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To keep at the top of your game you have to keep a clear head.

You can’t afford to fill up on news and negativity. The world’s overflowin’ with it and the only way to be a winner is to be in control of your thoughts.

Your thoughts become words, your words become actions and your actions become your destiny. Someone else came up with that, but I’ve always remembered it because it’s true. Our actions show who we truly are and how shallow or deep our character is.

Where you are today is a direct reflection of the words, thoughts and actions you took days, months and years ago. No matter how much some people blame their parents, teachers, where they grew up, television, the government or anything else, the truth is that nobody got them where they are today but themselves. The longer we choose to not take responsibility for our lives, the longer we’ll living uninspired lives that we don’t love.

I’ve heard 40 year old adults who complain about their lives and take no responsibility for what they’ve created. Give me a break. If you think you’re on the receiving end of life you’re mistaken and too lazy to do anything about it.

Simply think about the pictures you’ve seen on TV of people in third world countries. When I start to get mad about having to stand behind two people in a line at the grocery store I remind myself that a lot of people don’t even know where their food will come from tonight. This shifts me from anger to gratitude.

The next time you notice yourself getting frustrated or angry about something in your life I invite you to shift your focus onto what’s great in your life. It doesn’t matter if you think you don’t have enough money or you’re mad at your dog for chewing up a shoe. Remember how much love you get from having your dog in the first place and how your weekly earnings are more than some people make in a month or year.

Keep your focus on what is working – for you and for others. We are bombarded with negative input all day long. We need to watch what goes in because our livelihoods depend on what we creatively crank out. Our heads need to be full of positive inspiration or free space where we can dream.

A recent study revealed that the people who watch the most television news are the most fearful in our society. Crime has been going down in America for over a decade, but since the news focuses on it and repeats it over and over, a lot of people are receiving multiple messages that the world isn’t safe. These people end up being less confident and less successful as a result of being emotionally paralyzed to a degree by their fears.

Remember the old phrase “garbage in, garbage out”? If you Were asked to be on television based on the person you are today would be on Jerry Springer or Oprah?

Yeah, I know. You’re probably laughing or snickering right now.

I can practically see that questioning look of disbelief on your face.

You may even think that you wouldn’t be on either one. Just imagine that there’s a guy at your door and he’s going to put you in a limo right now and you have to pick one show or the other to be a guest on or you’ll be locked in your house for a month. (It’s silly, but you get the point, I want you to get into it).

There’s a definite difference between Oprah guests and Jerry’s guests. Oprah’s guests radiate confidence and have taken responsibility for their lives and have created lemonade out of lemons. Jerry’s guests radiate low self esteem and think they’re victims of life. Even worse, they think they have a right to inflict their negative self-defeating attitude on others.

Oprah people know that they’re on the creative end of life.

Jerry people choose to think they’re on the receiving end of life. And the truth is that if that’s what they believe then that’s what they get. It’s an easy cop out to settle in life and a lot of folks do it.

It’s important to keep a positive mental attitude no matter what your life is like because nothing is more important than your thoughts. They determine how you’ll experience the next minute, hour, day, week, year, decade and century. Rid your life of people and circumstances that don’t inspire and enliven you.

Life’s simply too short to put up distracting drama and complainers who never change anything.

We all throw around phrases about how life is too short, but we don’t live that way. Take at least one action today to reaffirm that you’re creating a life you love.

Fire a friend who drains your energy. Read from an autobiography of a person who inspires you. Turn off the TV and write your goals and values. Take a walk in nature or with a friend who supports the best in you. Write a note to someone who has impacted your life in a positive way to let them know you’re grateful for having them in your life. Rub your dog’s belly and watch a doggy smile of ecstasy come out to greet you.

You’re building a powerful future. Study successful people and you’ll notice they all surround themselves with other inspired and successful people. Your life is your show, choose to be an Oprah person and avoid the Jerry people who show up in your life. Or better yet, treat the Jerry people you meet like they are the Oprah person buried inside them so we can all shine together.

Let your positive mental attitude infect everyone you meet and we’ll all enjoy better lives.

About The Author:

Sopan is an author, mentor and teacher who is well loved and respected. Personal, compassionate, humorous, inspiring and full of innocent wonder; Sopan is skilled at working with people ready for change, raising their consciousness and upgrading their quality of life. His leading edge systems deliver results which many are joyfully choosing in today’s fearful, frustrating and stressful times.

Get your stress levels under control

By Susan Edmunds

Whether it’s caused by the demands of a full-on job, the struggle to balance family and work commitments or a one-off event such as moving house, stress is familiar to most people.

Good or bad, when you face pressure, your body’s instinct to defend itself kicks in. Stress is a natural response but if it goes on too long it can become a mental and physical problem. A lot of successful people say they are driven by stress – but how do you know when stress is changing from a positive, motivating force to a negative one?

Mary Grogan, of Change It Psychology, says psychologists refer to eustress (that results in increased productivity) versus distress (a long-term drain on your system).

“Eustress might be felt before an important performance – it can help us focus and perform well under pressure,” she says. “Typically stress becomes a problem when it is affecting one or more areas of your life; for example you might be tired and irritable most of the time, which affects those you live with, so there are more fights, and this has become a regular pattern. The optimal amount of stress differs for each of us so we need to define it individually and not compare it with others.”

The first step is to recognise you are stressed, and what you think might be causing it. Then work out what, if anything, is in your power to change. Can you break down a seemingly insurmountable problem into a series of more realistic ones, do more planning for an upcoming stressful event, resolve conflicts that are playing on your mind, increase the amount of exercise you do, or sleep and eat better?

Grogan says people should recognise the impact stress has on their lives and consider what it could be like in three or six months, if nothing changes.

“For most of us to change our behaviour, we need to recognise the current methods aren’t working and it’s worth spending time and energy figuring out methods that might be better,” she says. “For example if you’ve noticed your hours of work have crept up in recent months, and your ability to exercise, eat healthily, and catch up with friends and family has decreased, ask yourself how long you think that is sustainable.”

Once you know something has to happen, the next move is easier. If you know your job is causing your increased stress, for example, you can start making changes to fix it. Talk to your boss about limiting your overtime, or see if there are ways to make your workload more manageable.

But it can be easy to feel powerless if the thing causing most of your stress is out of your control. Grogan says this sort of stress can benefit from professional intervention: “Figure out which parts of a problem you might have to let go of. Remind yourself of the saying: ‘Grant me the ability to change the things I can, serenity to accept the things I can’t change, and the wisdom to know the difference’. You may need help coming to a point of acceptance with some thorny issues, such as people dying or being made redundant from your job.”

Keeping an eye on the way you feel throughout the day can help you keep on top of stress. “Awareness of your moment-by-moment daily experience is something we teach to prevent stress. You can do this by being aware of small things throughout the day that change your mood from feeling okay to feeling down/anxious/stressed/angry. Notice the thoughts, body sensations and feelings that accompany these changes so you don’t react, but respond effectively to whatever comes up.”

Diaphragmatic breathing – deep breathing that expands your abdomen rather than your chest when you inhale – is a good way to calm down when you feel your stress levels increasing. Change the way you think, too. Grogan says. “Challenging catastrophic thoughts can be useful. If you think ‘I will look like a fool doing this speech’, try telling yourself, ‘It’s natural to be a bit nervous and that can help performance. Most people won’t notice’.”

Combat stress

* Work out the source of the stress.

* Identify the aspects that you have control over and take action, however small.

* Eat well, sleep well and get more exercise.

* Focus on details and slow down.

* Consider professional help to get over stressful things that are beyond your control.
By Susan Edmunds
Copyright ©2011, APN Holdings NZ Limited

Are you in the right place for change?

Where you are physically and emotionally can have a great influence on what you are able to achieve, whether this is in relation to day to day success or achieving a lifetime goal of changing your life and your lifestyle in major ways.

Could it be true that your environment can have such an important impact on the success or failure of your plans? The answer is most definitely  a resounding ‘yes’!
Let’s  consider  where you are in the world: are you in an urban or rural place and how would these affect you? Consider how and where you are able to work and concentrate best. You may be someone who needs complete silence or would better benefit form interaction and support from other people around you. You may prefer working in a high rise office block or appreciate being able to get into or go out into fresh air during your day to day activities. This means that id you find yourself in the opposite sort of place than  your ideal that you may not function so well and your achievements can be diminished.

Your physical space is important and can its suitability also depends on the  air temperature and the climate. Consider too the convenience or not of how you reach your place of work or the space where you want to carry out  the changes you want to make.

Not only physical space but you emotional mindset is important too and it’s vital that you are in the right mindset for change. You need to be feeling very positive about the benefits you will experience when you make the changes you want to make so that you can engage in those changes with passion and enthusiasm.

If you mindset is doubtful or actually negative then your chance of success will be severely
reduced.
It helps to get into the right emotional space if you can gain support from at least one person, whether this is a close friend or family member or someone who you’ve not met before such as a coach or a mentor.
People sometimes their failure to succeed with the statement that they were not ‘in the right place’ at the time. So this an important factor for success. If you really want to succeed and have failed to do so until now then consider going to another place, whether that is a big as another country or as small as going into another room in the same building, or changing the arrangement of the furniture in the same room.

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