Are you fed up with the way your life is right now and wonder how to change it?
Here are simple ways to do just that and start to live the life you truly want.
What steps do you need to take now?
Start with a dream. Imagine stepping from where you are now into the life you would like to have and take a good look around so that you can remember what you are doing, how you are dressed, the way you are behaving, the sort of things you say, who else is there and how you communicate with them, and most important of all how you feel about being in that ideal life.
Take all that information with you in your head as you are back in your day to day world and pick a goal from that vision which is feasible for you to succeed in right now even though you know that in order to achieve it you may have to step out of your comfort zone.
It could be something relatively easy to do such as change the way you wear your hair or start to wear a different style of clothes or a colour you don’t usually wear. Take a deep breath and tell yourself that this is your first step towards a new life and then do it.
Because doing this means you have to step out of your comfort zone the thought may almost stop you taking any action. So take a deep breath and breathe out your anxiety and breath in confidence and tell yourself ‘I can do this.’
You may feel as though the step is too difficult to do so ask yourself what is stopping you and what you must do to be able to take that step. If your answer is “I don’t know,’ then ask: ‘what would you have to do if you did know what’s stopping you?
Discover the answer and so what you have to do to remove whatever was stopping you.
It’s that time of the year again when thoughts go forward to the dawn of a new year and the possibilities to change your life that come with it. With thoughts of wiping your life slate clean and starting over you may be making several resolutions again this year. Think back to this time last year and ask yourself what the chances might be for your success this time.
If you recall many years of failed resolutions then follow these guidelines for ways to make this then year when you set a resolution you keep and achieve.
What not to do:
Be vague about what you want to achieve. Promises to yourself that you will succeed with the weight loss or the fitness goals you want to be happier and healthier are likely to fail again.
Set goals which you could never achieve. It’s good to aim high but you need to be realistic about what could be possible too in relation to your current lifestyle, your age and fitness.
Don’t plan anything and expect that somehow or other you’ll find the motivation and time to do the exercise classes, go to the gym or buy and prepare healthier food. It just won’t happen on its own.
Keep it a secret from those close to you. If you don’t tell them what you are planning to d they won’t be able to support and encourage you to reach your goals.
Things to do:
Be as specific as you can be. You need to set yourself a very specific amount of weight you want to lose and spell out exactly what you plan to do raised your chance of success this time.
Aim high but not too high. Be inspired by other people’s success especially if they are a similar age and fitness level as you.
Keep a diary both to plan your new routines and to journal the ups and downs of your journey of change. Planning when you can introduce new routines into your day and then writing when you plan to do what is both motivating and enables you to move forward with your goal achievement successes.
Share your challenges with other people: those nearest and dearest in your family or amongst your friends. Also find others to form a support group with others facing similar challenges is a great way to keep going if you face some setbacks and encourage you to get back on track.
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Even though you probably know all of this you may not be doing it because you believe it isn’t possible given the circumstances of your life. It might be the strength of your in-built beliefs which are stopping you from making the changes you would love to make. So listen to the excuses you make and ask youreself if those statements are really true. You may be surprised to find that in fact they are not always true and if you begin to consider life with those beliefs turned around that you would be able then to make the progress you want and do things differently.
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Although everyone has a creative side, (known as your ‘right brain’), and a logical side, (known as your ‘left brain’), some people find it a challenge to get in touch with their creative side because they are conditioned to remain on a path which is conventional and proven.
Being creative means being prepared to think ‘outside the box’ and think of new and original ways to do things.
You may wonder how you could get in touch with your creative side. Here are three ways to do this:
When you want to be creative it’s very important to release any tension from your body so that your mind can be open to new experiences and not be pre-occupied with dealing with tension or stress. It’s possible to relax very quickly if you take three or four deep breaths while consciously thinking to yourself that as you breathe out you are releasing tension and as you breathe in you are taking in relaxation. In your relaxed state pick up a pen and start to write down all the potential ways forward you could take to achieve what you want. You might instead find that you would like to use paints instead or a musical instrument to express your new found creativity and explore where it leads you.
Once you are fully relaxed begin to think about the project you are attempting to complete and allow your mind to wander over various possibilities rather than immediately going for the obvious logical way to do it. Close your eyes ask yourself what ways there might be to solve or succeed with your project and notice the scenarios which appear in your mind as you do this. You may notice pictures sounds or emotions or a combination of all three. Then imagine yourself moving into the scenario you are thinking about and in that way discover for yourself what might or might not work for you and others. While you consider each possibility and visualise or daydream as if you were already there, you can discover what other people might or might not be doing in relation to you if what you imagine actually happened, and what they are saying to you and others. Be aware of any emotions that come up for you when you visit the various scenarios. Keep a notebook handy to jot down your experiences and insights as a result of your visualisation.
It’s easy to dismiss unusual or different solutions which you haven’t tried before but it’s important to be prepared to experiment and play with them. Sometimes what is needed is just doing anything even if you are uncertain of the potential outcome.People often think of all the possible ways that something won’t work and as a result dismiss the idea of trying as an experiment to see what would happen. The reality is that we can’t foretell the future however much we’d like to, so it’s useful to go forward into it in a creative and exciting new way.
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Are you stuck in a rut of believing that changing your life isn’t possible? Nevertheless whatever you think there is always a choice and a possibility to make changes to your life. Even though you may have reached the conclusion that nothing could possibly be different you will find that when you your mindset makes some shifts that you come to realise that change is possible. So it is vitally important that in order for you to find other ways to alter your situation and make changes you have to learn ways to change your mindset.
To change your mindset the first thing to do is to say to yourself that you are open to possibilities. Not only that but also that you are willing to change even if at this stage you don’t know how to do so. Say this affirmation in the first person and present tense and repeat it several times every day. Write it on ‘post it’ notes to stick on your computer screen or mirror or car dashboard.
Find and talk to other people who have been in similar situations to you and have made the changes you want to make and ask them what they did. You may not want to do the same but talking to them can spark other ideas in your head.
Be very sure about what you want to achieve and set yourself clear goals. Identify the first step you need to take then brainstorm every way you can think of to succeed with your goal. Don’t edit these ideas, just fill your page with everything you can think of, even the most unlikely idea may have some essence you might be able to tap into.
Most important is not to censor yourself at this stage with comments like: ‘I’d never be able to do that.’ Instead accept that there might be something in any of the ideas you have.
It’s your internal critic which may have been stopping you making any progress until now. Relax and let your internal dreamer have its say and tell you ways forward. In order to do this it’s important to take the time to daydream and imagine yourself having achieved what you want and think about what it would be like to be living your desired life. Think about where you would be, who would be with you, what you’d be wearing, what you’d be saying and hearing and how you would be feeling.
You can change your life if you follow these tips for change.
Are you one of those people who resists making changes because you have mastered the skill of procrastination? Some of the reasons that people use to delay taking the actions they say they would like to make are:
- It’s not the right time
- I’m not in the right place
- I haven’t got my mind around it yet
- I don’t know how to do it
- Other people won’t like it
- I’m not that sort of person
Do you use any or all of these as excuses for not doing something? Even though you sound convincing when you tell others what you’d really like to do, or how you hope that someone would be able to improve your current situation you use those reasons to stay stuck in your rut.
What can you do to change this state of affairs and make the changes you’ve been delaying?
You can go through each of your excuses and turn them around so that they become instead reasons why you can succeed and do what you want without any more procrastination. When you do that you will have affirmations and be on your roadmap for success:
- It’s the right time
- I’m in the right place
- I’ve got my mind around it
- I know what to do
- Whether people like it or not my life is what matters to me
- I can change and be the person who can do it
When you change these statements from negative to positive then your perception of what is possible changes too and you will be able to do what you want to do.
You will be confident that this is the time in your life to do these things so that instead of waiting longer you will begin to clarify your goals and plan your course of action.
You will realise that wherever your location there are ways you can achieve what you want or will work out ways to move into your ideal place.
Your mind will engage with your project so that you find ways to overcome obstacles in order to move forward with your goals.
You will be very clear about the goal you want to achieve and the steps to take towards it.
You are aware of your own needs and wants and make these paramount and are able to make your changes into a win-win situation for those others who may be affected.
You are confident that not only can you make the changes you want but also that you can initiate whatever it is that you believe is missing form the situation rather than waiting for others to do it.